Thailand braces for large anti-government rally

BANGKOK (AP) ? Thailand will deploy thousands of police officers and has invoked a special security law for an anti-government rally Saturday that is expected to be the largest since Prime Minister Yingluck Shinawatra took office in 2011 and that officials fear could turn violent.

Authorities expect tens of thousands of protesters, a turnout that would serve as a sharp reminder of the deep political divisions in the country despite two years of relative calm.

Yingluck on Friday accused the protesters of seeking to overthrow her elected government.

The demonstration is being organized by a royalist group calling itself "Pitak Siam" ? or "Protect Thailand" ? at Bangkok's Royal Plaza, a public space near Parliament that has been used by protesters in the past.

While the group is a newcomer to Thailand's protest scene, it is linked to the well-known "Yellow Shirt" protesters, whose rallies led to former Prime Minister Thaksin Shinawatra's overthrow. The same movement later toppled a Thaksin-allied elected government after occupying and shutting down Bangkok's two airports for a week in 2008.

Thaksin, who is the brother of current prime minister Yingluck, remains a divisive figure in Thai politics. The Yellow Shirts and their allies say he is personally corrupt and accuse him of seeking to undermine the popular constitutional monarch ? a charge Thaksin denies.

Yingluck is taking Saturday's rally seriously. Her Cabinet invoked the Internal Security Act on Thursday in three Bangkok districts around the protest site, and she later addressed the nation to explain the move, citing concerns of violence.

In a nationally televised address, Yingluck said protest leaders "seek to overthrow an elected government and democratic rule ... and there is evidence that violence may be used to achieve those ends."

The security act allows authorities to close roads, impose curfews and ban use of electronic devices in designated areas. Measures began taking effect Thursday night, with police closing roads around Yingluck's office, the Government House, and placing extra security at the homes of senior officials, including the prime minister.

National police chief spokesman Maj. Gen. Piya Uthayo said Friday that nearly 17,000 police officers had been called in from around the country to provide security for the rally.

The new protest group's leader is retired army Gen. Boonlert Kaewprasit, who is best known for his role as president of the Thailand Boxing Association. His name is unfamiliar in the anti-Thaksin protest movement but his message appears to have resonated with Yellow Shirt supporters who have laid low in recent years after Yingluck's party won the last elections.

Analysts said they did not view the protest as an immediate threat to Yingluck's government but were watching it closely.

"Anytime you have tens of thousands of people converging, assembling in a central Bangkok location, it becomes a government stability concern," said Thitinan Pongsudhirak, a political scientist at Bangkok's Chulalongkorn University.

But, he added: "I think it's a serious concern more than a serious threat."

Thailand has been gripped by bouts of political instability since 2006, with Thaksin's supporters and opponents taking turns to spar over who has the right to rule the country.

The most violent episode came in 2010, when Thaksin's "Red Shirt" supporters led a two-month occupation of central Bangkok to demand the resignation of an anti-Thaksin government. The protests sparked a military crackdown that left at least 91 people dead and more than 1,700 injured.

Thaksin has lived in self-imposed exile since 2008 when he jumped bail to evade a corruption conviction and two-year jail term. He retains huge popularity among the rural poor, who want to see him pardoned and returned to power. But he is reviled by the urban elite and educated middle class, who see him as authoritarian and a threat to the monarchy.

Buoyed by Thaksin's political machine, Yingluck was elected by a landslide victory in August 2011. She initially was criticized for her lack of political experience ? she was an executive in Shinawatra family businesses ? but has won praise for leading the country through one of its longest peaceful periods in recent years.

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UBS trader gets 7 years' jail for $2.3 billion fraud

LONDON (Reuters) - Former UBS trader Kweku Adoboli was convicted and sentenced to seven years in jail on Tuesday for the biggest fraud in British history, which resulted in a loss of $2.3 billion for the Swiss bank.

Ghanaian-born Adoboli, 32, a senior trader on the Exchange Traded Funds (ETFs) desk at UBS's investment banking arm in London, admitted trading far in excess of authorised risk limits and making fictitious book entries to hide his true positions.

He cried in the dock as his lawyer Charles Sherrard asked for the judge's clemency, describing him as a sensitive, committed, hard-working young man who had already paid a very high price for what he had done.

"The tragedy for you is that you had everything going for you," the judge, Brian Keith, told Adoboli.

"There is a strong streak of the gambler in you ... You were arrogant enough to think that the bank's rules for traders didn't apply to you."

Adoboli, who composed himself for the judge's remarks, was then taken away by police. He will serve half the sentence before being released on probation, and after taking into account the time already spent in custody could be out of prison in about two and a half years.

The prosecution had portrayed him as a reckless gambler who played God with UBS's money in the belief that he had the magic touch, driven by a desire to be a star trader with a huge bonus to match.

His defence was that the bank had turned a blind eye to rule-bending as long as profits rolled in and that others knew what he was doing and did not disapprove.

He had pleaded not guilty to two charges of fraud by abuse of position covering the period from October 2008 to his arrest on September 15, 2011.

The jury returned a unanimous verdict of guilty on the main fraud count, holding him directly responsible for the $2.3 billion loss. It related to his unhedged, multi-billion-dollar trades in the summer of 2011.

During the 10-week trial, the court heard that his risk exposure had peaked at $12 billion on August 8, 2011, while his desk's authorised risk limit was $100 million intra-day and $50 million overnight.

ACQUITTED OF FALSE ACCOUNTING

The jury found him guilty by a majority of 9-1 on the other count of fraud, which related to unhedged, unauthorised trading in the period from October 2008 to May 2011.

To convict Adoboli of fraud, the jury had to be certain that he had intended to expose UBS to the risk of losses beyond what was normal for a trader.

He was acquitted on four counts of false accounting related to the fake entries he admitted making into UBS's computer systems to hide his true positions, for which the jury needed to be certain that he had acted for personal financial gain.

Adoboli had always disputed the prosecution argument that he was driven by a desire for a bigger bonus.

"The amount of money involved was staggering, impacting hugely on the bank but also on their employees, shareholders and investors. This was not a victimless crime," said Andrew Penhale, deputy head of fraud at the Crown Prosecution Service, after the verdict.

Though UBS denies a link between Adoboli's losses and its subsequent decision to axe 10,000 jobs and wind down much of its investment bank, others say it would not have happened without the management changes it brought about.

A swathe of top UBS executives including former Chief Executive Oswald Gruebel, have resigned, been sacked, or sidelined following the scandal.

DENIED AN EMBRACE FOR FATHER

Wearing a suit and tie, Adoboli stood in the glass dock at the back of the courtroom at Southwark Crown Court while the jury delivered their verdicts. His father John, who had travelled to Britain from Ghana to support his son throughout the lengthy trial, was seated directly behind the dock.

Adoboli bowed his head when the foreman of the jury gave the first verdict, which was on the main count of fraud. He was then taken into custody and returned later to hear the five other verdicts. He was not given an opportunity to leave the dock to embrace his father.

Adoboli revealed the losses to his managers in an email on September 14, 2011, and was arrested in the early hours of the following day at UBS offices. His trial started a year later.

UBS shares were down 1.45 percent at 14.29 francs at 1459 GMT, while the European banking sector index was down 1.8 percent.

(Writing by Stephen Addison; editing by Guy Faulconbridge and Will Waterman)

Source: http://news.yahoo.com/ex-ubs-trader-adoboli-convicted-2-3-billion-113828792--sector.html

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Jack Taylor scores 138 points for Grinnell

In a photo, date unknown, provided by Grinnell College Athletics, Grinnell basketball player Jack Taylor poses for a photo in Grinnell, Iowa. Taylor, a point guard, scored 138 points for Division III Grinnell against Faith Baptist Bible on Tuesday night, Nov. 20, 2012, in Grinnell, shattering the NCAA scoring record. Grinnell won 179-104. (AP Photo/Grinnell College, Cory Hall)

In a photo, date unknown, provided by Grinnell College Athletics, Grinnell basketball player Jack Taylor poses for a photo in Grinnell, Iowa. Taylor, a point guard, scored 138 points for Division III Grinnell against Faith Baptist Bible on Tuesday night, Nov. 20, 2012, in Grinnell, shattering the NCAA scoring record. Grinnell won 179-104. (AP Photo/Grinnell College, Cory Hall)

This image provided by Grinnell College shows Grinnell guard Jack Taylor (3) shooting one of 108 shots during Tuesday's Nov. 21, 2012 game against Faith Baptist Bible in Grinnell, Iowa. Taylor scored 138 points to shatter the NCAA scoring record in Division III. (AP Photo/Grinnell College, Cory Hall)

In a photo, date unknown, provided by Grinnell College Athletics, Grinnell basketball player Jack Taylor poses for a photo in Grinnell, Iowa. Taylor, a point guard, scored 138 points for Division III Grinnell against Faith Baptist Bible on Tuesday night, Nov. 20, 2012, in Grinnell, shattering the NCAA scoring record. Grinnell won 179-104. (AP Photo/Grinnell College, Cory Hall)

Jack Taylor's performance left even Kobe Bryant impressed.

The Division III guard shattered the NCAA scoring record with 138 points, hoisting a mind-boggling 108 attempts ? or one shot every 20 seconds ? in eclipsing the previous record by 25 points.

Taylor made 27 of 71 3-point attempts, was 52 of 108 overall from the field and added seven free throws on 10 attempts while playing 36 minutes in Grinnell's 179-104 victory over Faith Baptist Bible on Tuesday night in Grinnell, Iowa.

"That's crazy, man. I don't care what level you're at. Scoring 138 points is pretty insane," the Lakers' superstar said after Los Angeles' victory over the Nets.

Even Taylor was having a hard time processing his feat.

"I don't think reality has set in yet," said the 5-foot-10, 170-pound sophomore from Black River Falls, Wis.

That's partly because Taylor was coming off a poor shooting weekend and started Tuesday's night game off slow ? at least according to his standards. His coaches figured the best way to get him on track was for him to keep chucking, so that's what Taylor did.

"Maybe my cold shooting from the weekend was affecting me," Taylor said. "But then they started to drop."

Taylor had 58 points at halftime.

Then he got hot.

Taylor was 32 of 58 from the field ? including 18 3s ? in the final 20 minutes and averaged an astonishing four points a minute in the second half.

"It felt like anything I tossed up was going in," Taylor said.

Bryant, who has a shoe that bears his Black Mamba nickname, has a theory.

"He must have been wearing the Mambas, man. Only Mambas have no conscience to shoot the ball that much," said Bryant, who has an 81-point game, second-best in NBA history, on his resume.

Rio Grande's Bevo Francis held the NCAA scoring record with 113 points against Hillsdale in 1954. In 1953, Francis had 116 against Ashland Junior College. Frank Selvy is the only other player to reach triple figures, scoring 100 points for Division I Furman against Newberry in 1954. The previous Grinnell record was 89 by Griffin Lentsch last Nov. 19 against Principia.

Taylor recently transferred to Grinnell, located about 50 miles east of Des Moines, after playing one season for Wisconsin-La Crosse. Under coach David Arseneault, the Pioneers press and shoot 3s like nobody else in the country at any level. They've led the nation in scoring for 17 of the past 19 seasons while ranking first nationally in 3-point shooting for the 15 of those past 19 years.

Taylor's game was so astounding it overshadowed the 70 points Faith Baptist's David Larson had on 34-of-44 shooting.

Carmelo Anthony and the New York Knicks were amazed by Taylor's accomplishment when they heard about it after their victory in New Orleans.

"I never heard of nothing like that. That's like a video game," Anthony said, an incredulous look on his face. "How can you shoot 100 times, though?"

He joked that from now on when someone asks if he's taking too many shots, he'll mention "that someone shot it 108 times."

Raymond Felton also was astounded by the 108 shots.

"His elbow has got to be sore," Felton said.

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AP Sports Writers Brett Martel in New Orleans and Greg Beacham in Los Angeles contributed to this report.

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Welcome to the new and improved, leaner and faster Engadget

DNP Welcome to the new and improved, leaner and faster Engadget

This one has been coming for a long time, dear readers, and we're all incredibly thrilled to unleash upon you the latest look of Engadget -- but don't call it a redesign. Our amazing developers and designers have been hard at work for the better part of a year re-thinking and re-writing the site from the ground up to create something that's cleaner and simpler looking on the outside but faster and far more advanced on the inside, something that looks as amazing on your smartphone as it does on your desktop, something that brings a taste of our amazing tablet magazine, Distro, to your browsers.

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Arsenal v Tottenham: Back Ade to notch in North London derby

Arsenal?s apparent incapability to defend makes backing them as odds-on favourites in the North London derby a fool?s errand.

The Gunners are priced at 19/20 to overcome their arch-rivals while Andre Villas Boas? men can be had at an enticing 13/5, with the draw good value at the same price.

Removing the hosts from the reckoning via the Arsenal no bet market renders both possible outcomes for the match as 5/6 shots. This represents exceptional value for money given the fact that Arsene Wenger?s men have failed to win all but one of their last seven games in 90 minutes.

Three of their last four have ended all-square and, given that this is the most drawn contest in Premier League history with 17 renewals ending in stalemate, this could see punters lean towards the tie in this one.

However, only once in the last seven meetings have these bitter enemies shared the spoils and with both teams sure to be going all-out for the points at the Emirates it would be a wise move to swerve this eventuality occurring for the 18th time.

After terrorising the Man City back line for most of the game last time out, Emmanuel Adebayor is likely to be handed a start against his former employers and AVB will be looking to the Togolese star to continue his great record in this fixture.

In 11 appearances on either side of the divide, he?s bagged nine goals, including once from the spot in Spurs? 5-2 defeat in this fixture last term. This makes the 8/1 that says he opens the scoring here very much worth a bet; he?s also generously priced at 5/2 to find the net at any time.

In four of the last five Premier League tussles between the pair a defender has managed to get on the scoresheet and three of these were full backs.

Thomas Vermaelen has occupied the left back berth in the absence of Kieran Gibbs/incompetence of Andre Santos and, should Wenger elect against switching to three centre backs in this one as has been reported, he will continue in there against Spurs.

The Arsenal captain has proved in the past that he knows where the net is and, at 8/1, the Belgian boasts the biggest chance of continuing the trend of full backs being in the goals when these sides meet.

All odds and markets accurate as of publication?s time and date

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I have been seeing a few posts here on TAM about Stay At Home Dads who are dissatisfied.
As usual there are arguments on both sides of the gender divide. Women love the idea, but even those men who are themselves SAHD's appear to be either nonchalant, stigmatised or dissatisfied.
They never seem excited about it.
I have known a few cases in real life where it did not work well and ended in separation and divorce .
Only two cases I personally know where this arrangement has worked well.

So my questions are directed to the SAHD on TAM;

1]What has been your experience, is it positive?

2]What has been the reaction you get from other people regarding your choice to stay at home and allow your wife to become the breadwinner of the family?

3]What has been your wife's reaction. Do you think she looks at you and respects you the same as before?

4]Is being a stay at home dad as fulfilling to you as going out , working and providing for your family?

5]Is there a power differential in your marriage, and who usually has the final say when serious decisions are to be taken and there is an impasse ?

6]being a stay at home dad have an effect on your sex life, if so how?

I would like to have ladies input / point of view as well.
The main purpose of the post is to get a general idea of how men feel about it versus what women think ,
And why.

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I wish I had more input. My only experience regarding this was when my last husband retired from the military and decided he was not going to work again and that I was going to support the family. He earned about $40k a year in retirement pay and I wasn't ok with him retiring. Our kids had all grown and left home except one, who was due to leave for college in a matter of months.

I did encourage him to do something part-time if he wanted to care for our home and such. He didn't want to take care of the house interior at all, though. Mow the lawn and trim hedges was the extent of what he wanted to do on the house.

2) I have been the breadwinner a few times. I had a LTR where the guy was out of work for about two years. Neither I nor others had much respect for him because he claimed to be looking for work and never found any, but found plenty of ways to go drinking. He would go give plasma to get money for beer.

My first husband also went through about a year where he only earned $30 a week working four hours at a junkyard, but was also attending school. I had much more respect for that.

5) During the "retirement" thing, there wasn't a power differential, but in the other two cases, I assumed most of the power in the relationship, which created many power struggles that ended the relationships.

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I resepct stay at home's dad as much as I respect anyone that works (in home or out) and gets things done. Good work is good work.

With that said...

I would never want my husband to be a stay at home parent/spouse (we are childless). I'm sure I would end up feeling resentful if I ever started feeling that my husband couldn't PAY for this or that for me (yes I know my money would be our money... but still). I like knowing that my husband can, and does, treat me out to dinner, movies, shows etc. Makes me feel like I'm still being courted which is important to me and gives me great reasons to keep my self and my body hot and in shape. I love being his arm candy when he's treating me to somewhere nice.

Also, I could see myslef losing respect for him if I regularly walked in on him napping, or waching tv or chilling on the sofa, especially after I've been working all day.

I do believe that men are naturally built to work, outside the home. The strength, height, testosterone , muscles all say to ME that men are,not meant to be stay at home parent'sBspouses. Women, being the weaker, shorter, less physical sex seem like the better in home parent/spouse to me.

I am a stay at home wife, hubby works 5 days a week and I keep our place homely and comfortable and go to school. We are planning on having children eventually and I will certainly be a stay at home. After getting my degree, I may decide to go to work, or I may just stay home. Either wa, it's good to know that my husban would respect whatever choice I made and could provide for me,and would do so happily.
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I'm probably one of the most well known SAHD's on TAM so I'll chime in.

Met my wife 18 years ago, I was working full time and supported her all through college. Fed her, let her live in my place so she would not have to pay room and board at school for 4 years. Got married and waited 3 1/2 years to have kids. When my son was born I moved to 3rd shift and she stayed working during the day. I'd come home at 7am take care of him with very little sleep. Did not see each other all week. Well that did not last long, so we evaluated potential incomes and I decided to stay home. Worked well at first. Had 2nd kid in 2006. My wife was moving up because of this and bought new house.

Last year I could see a change in her, distant from me and kids. Only cared about work. She would belittle me in front of friends and family. Being the "nice guy" I never stood up for myself. Had that gut feeling she was cheating with neighbor. Made a huge mistake confronting with no evidence. She responded defensively. Ask what "proof" I had. Dumb arse me said I just had that gut feeling.

Started reading MMSG and NMMNG books. Changed myself for the better and from April-sept this year seemed better. Then things got cold, could feel the lack of respect creeping back in.

Got tons of advice from members here to go back to work or school. Well my job would not let me work part time. I needed to be here for kids vacations, days off and get them going in morning and after school homework and activities. So I am now on the path to start schooling next year to change my career.

Bio of my wife: Came from a home where mom and dad showed no affection toward each other. Not much affection to my wife and her sister. Dating my wife was great, I had the job, appt, money. That put me in the drivers seat as far as dominant/Alpha.

That's the thing that changed becoming a SAHD, roles changed, she has always been a bit Alpha female but it soared in the last few years. Disrespected me and kids. I think the combo of being breadwinner and her upbringing played a big part. Did not help that I let it get this bad without voicing my concern. But that is what changes a man when he decides to play the part of mr. Mom. It does not happen overnight either.

Well after reading those books I am getting myself back and I can tell she liked the change early on. But in my opinion she was fearing losing control of power. So the last few months have not been good. I may have messed up by trying to have a discussion about communication and lack of intimacy. Doing this was showing too much Beta. I have all the Beta I need being a SAHD.

Members here have givin me a lot of insight that is spot on. Going back to school is something I want to do for myself. If she continues to show lack of respect I need an out. I need to be able to support myself and kids. I can't stay in this marriage with the way things are going.

As for infidelity on her part I am still looking for concrete proof. The VAR has picked up a few things but nothing I could show as proof. I have decided if there is cheating I will not be married to this woman.

Final note on being a SAHD's, it is the most rewarding experience for me and kids. Never had to worry about daycare. They are safe, fed, clothed, and do amazing in school. My daughter and son love having me around and will always remember the great times growing up.

My dad and mom got divorced when I was 5 and he was never around. That was tough on me, he died 15 years later and even though we were not close I cried like crazy when I got the news.

Oh and BTW, I don't ever take naps, watch tv or lounge around all day. I'm constantly doing project around house and volunteering at school.
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My wife and I don't have children together.

I am a professional actor. I left a decently paying job a few years ago to pursue my dreams full time, as I have a degree in Acting/Theatre from a major university. In between contracted work, it's not uncommon for her to be making more money than me, and she definitely has more steady, typical hours and works at a renowned broadcasting company, and has a great position in their HR department.

She doesn't give a sh*t. She's my biggest fan, is 1000% encouraging, and we don't have any of the mr.nice guy/disrepect/belitting crap I see all over TAM. My wife does not lord over me, the very concept is hilarious, and she loves to jump my bones.

I have periods, like most artists pursuing the art professionally, where I do the "maybe I should just buckle and get a soulless job" dance, because I want to be a more steady provider for my baby. She tells me to shut my mouth, and encourages me to keep going. I'll ask her every once in awhile if she wants me to go back into regular, fulltime, "standard" work, and she says absolutely not. She knew who she married, she loves who she married, and we don't let a lot of the usual marriage killers get in the way.

So nothing with us has changed. When I've had a lot of cash in the pocket, and when I have not, we stay the same. My money is hers, and her money is mine.

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Hi CB,

I've been lurking on here for quite a while now, hoping to learn about marital problems and how people deal with them. Obviously mine is not perfect or I would not be here. But, after reading for a few weeks about other people's issues, I think I have figured out where I went wrong and how to fix it. I don't know why I didn't think of it before because we've been down this road in the past and was given the advice by an MC. We've already put a few things into place and we'll be fine. I'm 100% confident in saying that. I don't know why it didn't dawn on me earlier...

Anyways, your post inspired me to join and give my 2 cents on this subject. It's something I hold very close to my heart. I consider myself to be extremely fortunate in regards to being able to stay home with my 4 children 6 months out of the year. My work is seasonal. I only work in the warmer months and when I do work VERY long hours. When home, it allowed my wife to get away from the kids an socialize at work with people that were more than 3 feet tall. That, She very much appreciated! It allowed me to raise my children from a Man's perspective. They are very different.

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1]What has been your experience, is it positive?

Very positive! Children grow up and emulate their parents in many ways. Being able to raise them half of the year gave me the opportunity to instil my values, work ethic,attitude in them. I hope that comes across okay...My wife and I share the same values, but we are different people and we obviously act differently, being the opposite sex.

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2]What has been the reaction you get from other people regarding your choice to stay at home and allow your wife to become the breadwinner of the family?

My situation is a little different because I was the breadwinner, although the extra money my wife brought in helped a lot.

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3]What has been your wife's reaction. Do you think she looks at you and respects you the same as before?

She loved the fact that She could get out and that I could get very close to the children. There's nothing like being with them 24/7. Going to work and seeing them for a few hours after doesn't even compare. And yes, She respected me for it, if not more.

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4]Is being a stay at home dad as fulfilling to you as going out , working and providing for your family?

Let's put it this way, when that first job came up in the spring, I left with a tear in my eye. It was very rewarding. I love my work, but my kids more.

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5]Is there a power differential in your marriage, and who usually has the final say when serious decisions are to be taken and there is an impasse ?

Me, we talk about things on a regular basis, but if something doesn't "add up" it's not going to happen.

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6]being a stay at home dad have an effect on your sex life, if so how?

yes, I wasn't working 90 hours/week, so I got a LOT more nookie!

I get the impression, that you may feel that SAHD;s may be demasculinized (is that a word?) I think in a lot of cases they are. But, I think in a lot of cases they ALLOW it to happen. Just because you're raising your children doesn't mean you are a whimp. I am NOT and would NEVER let that be taken from me. I worked hard construction all summer and instilled values, discipline and a little bit of the crazy side of me into my children. We had a blast! I didn't want them turning into social robots that our education system wants them to be...

Long first post! Whew!


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Hi CB,

I've been lurking on here for quite a while now, hoping to learn about marital problems and how people deal with them. Obviously mine is not perfect or I would not be here. But, after reading for a few weeks about other people's issues, I think I have figured out where I went wrong and how to fix it. I don't know why I didn't think of it before because we've been down this road in the past and was given the advice by an MC. We've already put a few things into place and we'll be fine. I'm 100% confident in saying that. I don't know why it didn't dawn on me earlier...

Anyways, your post inspired me to join and give my 2 cents on this subject. It's something I hold very close to my heart. I consider myself to be extremely fortunate in regards to being able to stay home with my 4 children 6 months out of the year. My work is seasonal. I only work in the warmer months and when I do work VERY long hours. When home, it allowed my wife to get away from the kids an socialize at work with people that were more than 3 feet tall. That, She very much appreciated! It allowed me to raise my children from a Man's perspective. They are very different.

Very positive! Children grow up and emulate their parents in many ways. Being able to raise them half of the year gave me the opportunity to instil my values, work ethic,attitude in them. I hope that comes across okay...My wife and I share the same values, but we are different people and we obviously act differently, being the opposite sex.

My situation is a little different because I was the breadwinner, although the extra money my wife brought in helped a lot.

She loved the fact that She could get out and that I could get very close to the children. There's nothing like being with them 24/7. Going to work and seeing them for a few hours after doesn't even compare. And yes, She respected me for it, if not more.

Let's put it this way, when that first job came up in the spring, I left with a tear in my eye. It was very rewarding. I love my work, but my kids more.

Me, we talk about things on a regular basis, but if something doesn't "add up" it's not going to happen.

yes, I wasn't working 90 hours/week, so I got a LOT more nookie!

I get the impression, that you may feel that SAHD;s may be demasculinized (is that a word?) I think in a lot of cases they are. But, I think in a lot of cases they ALLOW it to happen. Just because you're raising your children doesn't mean you are a whimp. I am NOT and would NEVER let that be taken from me. I worked hard construction all summer and instilled values, discipline and a little bit of the crazy side of me into my children. We had a blast! I didn't want them turning into social robots that our education system wants them to be...

Long first post! Whew!

Thank you T&T for your honest response.
It actually made me smile because we both seem to be on the same bandwith regarding this.

In my original post, I did make mention of the fact that of all the cases of SAHD I personally know , only two were successful.
Quite interestingly, one of them was a case similar to yours.
The guy is a businessman, a personal friend of mine.
He and his wife had a son. His wife was studying for her bachelors and she worked in a corporate environment.
What he did is that during her last year of studies, he took two years off and became a full time SAHD, whilst running his business from home.

When his son was old enough he sent him out to school,and started beck going out to work.

He never had a complaint and today he and his son are inseparable

I see in your post you mentioned that you work half of the year.

I think that has worked in your favour!

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Thank you T&T for your honest response.
It actually made me smile because we both seem to be on the same bandwith regarding this.

In my original post, I did make mention of the fact that of all the cases of SAHD I personally know , only two were successful.
Quite interestingly, one of them was a case similar to yours.
The guy is a businessman, a personal friend of mine.
He and his wife had a son. His wife was studying for her bachelors and she worked in a corporate environment.
What he did is that during her last year of studies, he took two years off and became a full time SAHD, whilst running his business from home.

When his son was old enough he sent him out to school,and started beck going out to work.

He never had a complaint and today he and his son are inseparable

I see in your post you mentioned that you work half of the year.

I think that has worked in your favour!

Working half of the year did work our in our favour, even if the hours were extremely long. I loved it and thought I had the best of both worlds. I'm not sure why I wrote that post in the 'present' form. Maybe, because it triggered fond memories?

The kids are grown and moved out now. Three still live in the same city as us and we see the all the time. We're very close! I'm now a business man myself, who can work from home when I see fit. My wife went back to college recently and I'm now back to looking after household chores. I want her to be able to focus completely on her grades and it's paying off! We've always swapped duties along the way. If I'm swamped, she picks up the slack. Visa-Versa if she's busy. We've been switching back and forth on the household chores and who stayed home with the children our whole marriage.

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